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Women’s Aid’s Leadership Team is responsible for the effective day-to-day management of the charity, ensuring that our strategic outcomes are translated into high-quality services and partnerships to deliver positive outcomes for survivors. Collectively, the team provides operational oversight across all areas of the organisation, upholds our commitment to safeguarding and service quality, and ensures that our work reflects the values and principles integral to the domestic abuse sector.

Working collaboratively with the Board of Trustees, the Leadership Team oversees organisational and financial performance, compliance with relevant legislation and standards, and the development of a safe, supportive environment for staff and members.

The team leads our training, accreditation, research and evaluation programmes, ensuring that our work is evidence-informed, sector-leading, and grounded in survivor experience. The team also guides our fundraising efforts, supporting sustainable income generation that enables us to deliver and grow our vital services.

Bringing a breadth of experience spanning frontline service delivery, organisational development, marketing and digital, policy, advocacy, and sector leadership, Women’s Aid’s Leadership Team ensures that our work remains survivor-centred, innovative, and impactful.

Farah Nazeer is an accomplished leader with over 22 years of executive experience in the voluntary sector, specialising in women’s rights, human rights, and social justice. She has driven impactful policy, programme, and campaign interventions nationally and internationally, underpinned by feminist leadership, inclusivity, and anti-racism.

Since 2021, Farah has been CEO of Women’s Aid Federation of England, the UK’s leading charity working to end violence against women and girls. She oversees the federation of 185 member organisations delivering 300+ services nationwide. Her tenure has seen strategic transformation, governance reform, and cultural change, alongside her role as a prominent spokesperson and convenor within the VAWG sector.

Farah’s career includes senior roles at ActionAid UK, Bond, Lumos, the Motor Neurone Disease Association, and the Women’s Institute. She has led advocacy on gender-based violence, economic justice, institutional reform, and sustainability, influencing UK and global policy through legislative change, coalition-building, and high-impact campaigns.

A passionate advocate for intersectionality and systemic change, Farah champions diversity and accountability. She holds an MSc in Politics, Environment and Research and a BA in Politics with Eastern European Languages from UCL. She is also an experienced board member and former elected councillor.

Nikki Bradley MBE (hc) is the Director of Delivery and the designated safeguarding lead at the Women’s Aid Federation of England.

Nikki has been a qualified social worker for forty years working across the range of family and children centred statutory services as a practitioner and a manager. As such she has a detailed understanding of the range of interventions and challenges facing the multi-agency professional teams when responding to the impact of domestic abuse. Nikki has extensive experience of representing children in a range of court settings where domestic abuse was a dominant risk. 

In 2013 Nikki was awarded an MBE for her contribution to children and families, for her work in developing a Family Intervention model alongside government and several housing providers. A year later Nikki was awarded an honorary doctorate by Middlesex University where she is an alumni.

Nikki has a lot of experience of work towards more effective communication and impact within multi-disciplinary settings including for families with No Recourse to Public Funds and in children’s mental health provision.

Having joined the charity sector several years ago, Nikki is ambitious about the potential for closer collaboration with statutory partners to address some of the serious and systemic issues that impede the protection of children who are at risk of harm.

Sarah Davidge is the Head of Membership, Research and Evaluation at Women’s Aid Federation of England and has worked at Women’s Aid for 15 years in a range of roles within the membership and research teams. Sarah leads a number of projects providing an evidence base for the experiences of survivors of domestic abuse and the specialist services supporting them, including the No Woman Turned Away project which supports women facing barriers to accessing refuge.

Her research has included the 2019 reports The Economics of Abuse looking at the relationship between economic resources and domestic abuse, and Funding Specialist Support for Domestic Abuse Survivors which looks at the investment needed to create a sustainable support sector which is accessible to all women.

Her recent research has included the 2020 report A Perfect Storm: The impact of the Covid-19 pandemic on domestic abuse survivors and the services supporting them and more recently Come Together to End Domestic Abuse: a survey of UK attitudes to domestic abuse 2022 which looks at attitudes towards domestic abuse in the UK and Influencers and attitudes: How will the next generation understand domestic abuse? Which explores what influences the attitudes of children and young people.

Isabelle Younane is Head of External Affairs at Women’s Aid Federation of England. She joined Women’s Aid in August 2021, and currently leads the charity’s work across public affairs, communications, events and campaigning to ensure domestic abuse is at the top of the public and political agenda.

Prior to joining Women’s Aid, Isabelle has held policy, advocacy and communications roles at ActionAid UK, the British Council and the United Nations Association – UK (UNA-UK), primarily focusing on gender inequality and human rights abuses internationally.

An English graduate from the University of Exeter, she holds a Master’s degree in Human Rights from University College London and sits on the Advisory Council for New Diplomacy Project, an independent think tank that aims to support the development of a progressive foreign policy for the 21st century.

Kate Graves has been working in Accounting and Finance for over 40 years with experience across commercial, social enterprise and charity finance. She has been with Women’s Aid Federation of England since March 2024. She has extensive experience building finance teams, implementation of systems and problem solving in a fast-paced environment.

Faye Connelly is Head of Fundraising at Women’s Aid, where she leads the strategic development and delivery of income generation to support women and children affected by domestic abuse.

With extensive experience across charitable fundraising, Faye oversees a diverse portfolio including major gifts, trusts and foundations, corporate partnerships, individual giving, and community fundraising. She is responsible for driving sustainable income growth, strengthening donor engagement, and building long-term partnerships that amplify the organisation’s impact nationwide.

Faye is passionate about creating values-led fundraising strategies that centre survivors’ voices while maintaining the highest standards of ethical practice and transparency. She works closely with senior leadership and trustees to align fundraising ambitions with organisational strategy, ensuring that resources are directed where they are needed most, from frontline services to national campaigning and policy work.

Known for her collaborative leadership style, Faye builds high-performing teams and fosters strong cross-sector relationships to advance the mission of ending domestic abuse. Her work helps ensure that Women’s Aid can continue providing life-saving support, raising awareness, and driving systemic change for women and children across the UK.

Jo is an experienced training and organisational development leader with over 15 years’ experience across higher education, public sector, and non-profit environments. As Head of Training and Development at Women’s Aid, she leads the strategic growth of a trauma-informed, evidence-based learning offer that supports the professionalisation of domestic abuse practice across England.

Since joining Women’s Aid, Jo has led a major transformation programme, strengthening quality, modernising delivery, and restructuring teams to create a financially sustainable and high-performing function. Her approach centres on collaboration, inclusion, and measurable learning impact.

Before joining Women’s Aid, Jo founded and led Empower – Be The Change, an award-winning leadership and coaching organisation recognised nationally for innovation and impact. She has extensive experience developing leaders, designing evaluation frameworks, and building learning cultures that support confidence, capability and sector-wide change.

Jo holds postgraduate qualifications in leadership, coaching, mentoring and education, alongside Mental Health First Aid and Prince2 practitioner certification.

Priya brings a practical mix of legal knowledge, operational experience and culture-building to her role at Women’s Aid. Known for an approach that is calm, fair and clear, her work has taken her from public and private healthcare to business change and transformation, including supporting large workforces across the EMEA region. Throughout her career she has focused on strengthening leadership, decision-making and the everyday culture people work within.

At Women’s Aid, Priya oversees people strategy, organisational design, operations, and comms and engagement, alongside developing strong, accountable leadership at every level. Her focus is on how culture is lived day to day, not just how it appears in policy. She has led structural and cultural change in varied environments, strengthened governance, and supported other leaders to bring clarity, fairness and respect into the way they manage others. She combines employment law expertise with people-centred design to build systems that help colleagues work confidently, feel supported and do their best work.

Alongside her role at Women’s Aid, Priya is a Senior Lecturer in strategic people management and advanced employment law, and a CIPD IQA Lead. She received a national CIPD Outstanding Achievement Award, recognising one of the highest postgraduate results achieved in the UK, for early work on flexible working in healthcare, undertaken before sector-wide adoption, which helped shape a trial later implemented in practice; a recognition that continues to guide her commitment to strengthening HR thinking and practice through principled leadership and good governance.

Ellie is a purpose-driven leader, who is committed to driving positive social impact. Her varied experience spans the voluntary, private and public sectors, where she has driven national policy change and delivered impactful programmes and services, including for central government.

Before joining Women’s Aid, Ellie held senior positions in policy and delivery roles with a focus on families, education and children and young people. She spent five years working across varied policy areas for the Department for Education and has also held a policy leadership role at an Ed Tech start up, Multiverse. Ellie started her career working with young people in London, where she qualified as a teacher and went on to deliver a programme focused on promoting young people’s positive mental health and wellbeing, working for Barnardo’s.

As Head of Policy and Survivor Services at Women’s Aid, Ellie is passionate about evidence-informed policymaking and ensuring that survivor voice is at the heart of Women’s Aid’s work and amplified directly to national policymakers.

Elena Tognoni is an experienced marketing, brand and digital leader with over 15 years’ experience across international NGOs, health and social care, and mission-driven organisations. As Head of Marketing, Brand and Digital at Women’s Aid, she leads the strategic development of impactful marketing and user-centred digital services that strengthen the charity’s national voice and support women and children experiencing domestic abuse.

Before joining Women’s Aid, Elena spent six years at MSI Reproductive Choices UK, where she transformed marketing and digital capability, led major digital projects (including an award-winning website launch) and strengthened the organisation’s brand presence at a national level. Her work spanned digital strategy, content, service design, marketing, and cross-channel user experience, with a consistent focus on safeguarding, accessibility and audience needs.

Elena brings extensive experience in leading multidisciplinary teams, shaping digital ecosystems, and building clear, insight-driven strategies. She is passionate about strategies that centre survivors’ voices, improve access to support, and drive long-term social change.

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They’ve decided to stay, how can I help? https://womensaid.org.uk/information-support/friends-and-family/theyve-decided-to-stay/ Fri, 04 Apr 2025 12:52:24 +0000 https://womensaid.org.uk/?page_id=47532 They’ve decided to stay, how can I help? On this page: Reasons why people stay & ways to help We know that one of the most difficult things to understand, and to cope with, is a survivor deciding to stay in the relationship. Or, if they leave/end the relationship, and then return to it. Many […]

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They’ve decided to stay, how can I help?

We know that one of the most difficult things to understand, and to cope with, is a survivor deciding to stay in the relationship. Or, if they leave/end the relationship, and then return to it. Many of the people we speak to, tell us how they struggle, at times, not to feel angry or frustrated about the decisions a survivor is making. And then they feel guilty and upset with themselves for feeling cross about the situation. These are very common impacts – and people usually feel this way because they care about the survivor, they want her to be safe, and they want the situation to be resolved. If you feel able to, there are many things that you can start doing or keep doing, even if the person you are supporting stays within the relationship. And perhaps one of the most important things, is to understand some of the common reasons why people may struggle to leave or end relationships with an abuser.

Reasons why people stay & ways to help

From the outside, it can be difficult to understand how complicated relationships can be when experiencing abuse, and how much fear and danger are involved in the leaving/ending process. There are all sorts of reasons why people stay in the relationship, and it can be helpful to learn about these, so that you understand the situation from the survivor’s point of view. 

This may also help you to think about how you can continue to offer support during this period of time. Being patient and kind in your support, and ‘being there‘ in a variety of ways as you offer help and support over time is useful. And there are also other things you can do which are connected to the reasons why people stay. 

Every situation is different, but some of the common reasons why women stay in relationships while experiencing abuse, even if they want to leave, include the following: 

Abusers can be very clever at manipulating people, making them believe that things will get better, or be different, in the future. Sometimes they do this by saying ‘sorry’, making promises that they will change, or by using gifts, kindness, and loving words or gestures towards the survivor. However, apologies do not excuse abuse, and behaviour like saying sorry, offering gifts or promising to change can be used as tools to keep the survivor within the relationship. It does not mean that the abuse will end, or that the control over the survivor will decrease. 

“He probably told me more than 100 times that he was sorry, and that he could change. I really, really wanted to believe that things could be different one day.”

Survivor

If someone is really hopeful that things will get better, they will probably find it hard to hear any views which challenge this, and they may distance themselves from you if you strongly share opinions which are different to theirs. What you can do, is to ask gently for more information about these hopes for change. So, for example, if the person says that an abuser’s behaviour has been kind recently and that they think this is the start of a big change, you could ask them questions about whether the abuser has been kind in the past, what changes they are hoping for, and how they will know if those changes have happened. 

In this way, you are not confronting the survivor with a different opinion about their hopes, but you are giving them space to think through what their hopes are, what this means for them, and whether the hopes are realistic. 

Women who are experiencing domestic abuse may be scared to end the relationship. They may be fearful for their own safety, the safety of people they care about (including children), and the safety of pets. Abusers often make threats to hurt, injure, or kill a survivor, or her friends, relatives, or pets, if she makes the decision to leave.

An abuser may also threaten to damage a survivor’s property or possessions, or to share intimate images of them. Having lived in the relationship with the abuser, survivors are often aware of the violence and abuse they’re capable of. 

Never try to persuade someone that the risk is less than they believe it is. If the person decides to remain in the relationship, the best thing you can do is seek help and advice yourself from specialist services to find out how dangerous the abusive situation is, and how you can support the person you know to leave safely, and remain safe, when they are ready. 

You could also let the survivor know that you are concerned about her safety (and the safety of her children) and, if she is happy to talk with you about this, there are general safety tips you can share.  

Remember in an emergency situation you should always call 999 for the Police. If you cannot talk, you will be asked to press 55 to be put through.  

Use 999 BSL for a British Sign Language interpreter to connect you to emergency services. 

If children are part of the situation (for example, the survivor has children or the abuser has children), a survivor may be concerned about the impact on the children if she ends the relationship. A survivor may feel that children need 2 parents/parental figures (or contact with their extended families) in order to thrive – in the UK, there are strong societal and cultural opinions about this, and particularly about the rights of parents to interact with their children, even if a parent behaves abusively towards their children, or towards other people. These societal ideas do not recognise the connection between an abuser and their role as a parent, and how a pattern of coercive control may impact children.  

It can be difficult for survivors to challenge these ideas, both internally (to consider their own thoughts about these ideas) and externally (worrying about the judgements of other people, including professionals). Abusers often make threats to contact social services, or to declare that a survivor is an ‘unfit mother’ if she decides to end the relationship. Understandably, this can make a survivor very nervous about losing her children. 

A survivor may also want to protect or stay in contact with an abuser’s children. She may worry about what the end of the relationship will mean for these children. 

Survivors may also be concerned about the impacts on their children of changes which happen as a result of leaving the relationship. For example, less contact with important people in their lives, and moving area, house, and schools. 

“You get all these messages in the media about kids needing to parents, and I was worried that I just wouldn’t cope on my own, or that the children would hate me for leaving.”

Survivor

“I think she realised that I’d had enough and was going to walk away from the relationship. She told me that if I ever did, she’d contact social services with a whole list of my faults, and I’d never see the kids again. I couldn’t take that risk.”

Survivor

If a survivor feels that she is doing a good job of being a mum, it may make it easier for her to feel that she could parent her children on her own – this may overcome one barrier to leaving/ending a relationship. 

If someone is worried about parenting children on their own, there are things you can do to help. Possibly the most important, is to support them as they parent their children, by helping build their confidence. If you see them using good parenting skills, (for example, being kind, consistent and respectful, setting good boundaries, and staying calm) encourage them by giving them positive feedback. 

No parent gets everything right, but unless a child is at risk of harm, try not to criticise, compare, judge, or take over. Instead, be kind – share your own parenting challenges or difficulties with the survivor and gently discuss how each of you could do things differently. You could also share ‘support for parents’ resources with her and perhaps go through them together. 

Another thing that you can do, (without criticising, judging, or blaming) is to let the person know that you care about their children, and that you are worried that they might be affected by the situation. By gently expressing your concern, this may help you to talk together about the environment that children need to feel safe and to thrive. 

We know that children are survivors of domestic abuse in their own right, and the effects of changes which happen as a result of leaving are usually less (especially long term) than the effects of living in a home where the abuse continues. Most survivors under-estimate how much of the abuse their children have seen, heard, and experienced, and, for many women, the main reason for ending the relationship is to protect their children. 

It may be helpful to share resources for children if they need support: 

  • Childline is available on 0800 1111, via email, or children can have a 1-2-1 chat with a counsellor online
  • A safe adult can use the Women’s Aid directory to explore which services are available locally for children and young people. 
  • YoungMinds have lots of advice to help children and young people understand more about what they’re feeling and find support with their mental health.

Love is sometimes the hardest reason for people outside of the relationship to understand – many people struggle with the idea that it is possible to love someone who is behaving abusively. But survivors tell us that the love they felt for the abusive person does not just disappear because of the abuse.  

Abusers often use these feelings to manipulate a survivor’s behaviour. Saying things like, ‘If you loved me, you’d do what I ask‘, ‘You wouldn’t do that if you cared about me‘. But they also use these feelings to try to prevent a survivor from leaving.  

“I still completely loved him, and I hate the idea of leaving him alone and miserable in our flat. I wanted to wear my rings, even after I left, but I didn’t feel that other people would understand that I wasn’t ready to let go just yet.”

Survivor

From speaking with survivors, we know that they often feel conflicted feelings about the love and care they feel for an abuser, and that it is important that these feelings are not judged, dismissed, or ignored by other people.  

By gently asking open questions about how the person feels towards the abuser, in a supportive way, you will give the survivor an opportunity to think about what their feelings are. 

Many survivors feel embarrassed or ashamed that they have experienced domestic abuse. In spite of the changes in societal views about domestic abuse over the years, there is still a great deal of shame and stigma which remain. 

Shame and stigma are also a key part of “honour”-based abuse, where there can be significant consequences if a family believes someone to be bringing dishonour or shame. Survivors may be shamed to maintain control and prevent them speaking out. You can learn more about “honour”-based abuse and how to support someone on Karma Nirvana’s website. You can call their helpline for emotional support and expert guidance to help you understand if someone you know may be experiencing this. 

By ending a relationship which is abusive, a survivor may feel that their experiences of abuse will be highlighted to other people. For example, that they may have to explain to others why the relationship has ended or explain why they have made particular decisions and choices. 

A survivor may also be concerned that people’s opinions of them will change, and that they will be treated differently, if people know what has happened. There can be additional stigma and barriers for survivors who work in the domestic abuse sector or in a role that supports survivors e.g. GP, social care, police. There can be barriers where they may not be able to reach out to some services because of professional links.  

“I couldn’t believe it had happened to me. I was worried that my colleagues would see me differently if they knew, and they would undermine everything I’d worked so hard for.”

Survivor

“My parents have been together over 50 years and have strong views about marriage. I couldn’t bear the idea that they would think I hadn’t tried hard enough or had failed to stick with it.”

Survivor

One of the ways you can help someone who is feeling embarrassment, shame, or stigma about their experiences of domestic abuse, is to reduce the silence. Feelings of shame often remain, or grow, if we do not let ourselves talk about difficult experiences. This does not mean that you need to talk directly about the person’s own experiences, especially if they are not keen to do this. But, by talking about domestic abuse more generally, you can help to bring it out into the open. You might chose to share some information that you have recently learnt about domestic abuse 

Or you could use a recent news story, or a soap opera/TV storyline, to start a conversation. By talking about domestic abuse, without necessarily talking about the person’s own experiences, you can give lots of helpful responses and messages. 

Some women experiencing domestic abuse have very little access to the resources (money, accommodation, transport etc.) and support that they need to leave a relationship. For some people, it can be a choice between remaining in the relationship, going into a refuge, or making themselves homeless.  

If a survivor is isolated from the people who care about her, she may feel that she has nowhere to go, no way of getting away, no access to money, and no idea where to go for support (including support from professionals).  

There are lots of ways that you can offer practical support, but survivors often do not know that people are willing to help in this way, or they feel embarrassed about asking for practical help. 

Letting the person know that you can help practically, either now, or in the future, can reassure them. You do not have to talk about the abuse itself to let the person know the practical things that you are willing and able to help with. 

For example:

  • You know that if you ever need a bit of time to yourself, you can come and stay with me, don’t you?
  • I’d always be willing to have the kids for a few hours if you need to go to any appointments, or sort anything out
  • If you ever want to get some advice/open a bank account/find out what your rights are, I’d be more than happy to come with you, if that would be helpful

By offering practical help, even if the time is not right at the moment for the survivor to end the relationship, she will know that support is there. 

It is important to recognise that the timing for leaving a relationship can be really important, especially because the danger may increase at the point of leaving. Even if a survivor wants to end the relationship, or has been thinking about leaving for a while, she may not feel ready for this to happen. Helping someone to think about the barriers to ending their relationship, can help them to find solutions, and find a way forward. 

Sometimes there is a trigger point in a relationship, when the survivor decides to take immediate action. At this point, it can be really helpful if you have thought in advance about how you can offer support as they leave/end the relationship. 

Whichever way a survivor chooses to leave, or to end the relationship, your patience and on-going support for her are really important. Please do not under-estimate how difficult it can be to support a survivor long-term, and to cope with seeing and hearing about the abuse over time. As you offer support, do also think about the impacts on yourself, and make sure that you look after yourself. 

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How can I help over time? https://womensaid.org.uk/information-support/friends-and-family/how-can-i-help-over-time/ Fri, 04 Apr 2025 12:51:48 +0000 https://womensaid.org.uk/?page_id=47531 How can I help over time? On this page: How can I help over time? How can I help over time? You may be in a situation where it feels like the domestic abuse has been happening for a long time, or you may be thinking that it is likely to go on for some […]

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How can I help over time?

How can I help over time?

You may be in a situation where it feels like the domestic abuse has been happening for a long time, or you may be thinking that it is likely to go on for some time. 

Survivors often live with domestic abuse for months, or even years, or they return to a relationship after leaving. Many women try to leave or end a relationship with an abuser 5 or 6 times before they end the relationship forever. Every situation is different, but there can be similarities between people’s experiences. The support you can offer will depend on whether the survivor is staying in the relationship for now, or whether they are thinking about, or taking steps, towards leaving or ending the relationship. 

Even after a relationship with an abuser has ended, you may notice that some effects and impacts of the domestic abuse continue.  On top of recovering from the ongoing impacts of abuse, it is common for abuse to continue post-separation. Abusers frequently use legal proceedings (including divorce and child contact) to continue to control survivors. For example, if there are family court proceedings, an abuser may attempt to influence the views of professionals involved and undermine the parenting skills of the survivor. It may be difficult for your friend, family member, neighbour, or colleague to say that they are struggling after the relationship has ended. They can find information about support after leaving in The Survivor’s Handbook, and they can join Survivors’ Forum to connect with other survivors to share experiences and support one another.

Survivor’s Handbook

This handbook provides practical support and information for women experiencing domestic abuse, with guidance on seeking support and reaching safety.

Survivors’ Forum

Survivors of abuse can speak with other women in our supportive community of domestic abuse survivors on our Survivors’ Forum. It’s a safe, anonymous, space for women (over 18) who have been affected by domestic abuse to share their experiences and support one another.

One of the best things you can do to help someone over time is to keep ‘the channels of communication openand occasionally ask some gentle questions about what is happening. 

But we also know from speaking with friends, family members, neighbours, and colleagues that providing support over months or years can be hard. It can be difficult coping with what you have seen and heard, and you may experience impacts yourself. It is really important that you look after yourself – if you remain OK, this will benefit the person you care about.

In lots of ways, offering help over time is about doing the same things you have already been doing – noticing, learning about domestic abuse, asking gentle questions, listening well, responding well, signposting, recording, thinking about safety, and offering practical help – long term. This does need patience and perseverance, but survivors of domestic abuse have told us that it was really helpful when a person close to them ‘stuck around‘  and continued to be kind and supportive. 

Showing that you care, and are interested in the person, is often about asking very open and general supportive questions, for example: 

  • How are you doing at the moment? 
  • You don’t seem yourself, are you alright? 
  • Is there anything I can do to help? 

You do not necessarily need to ask or talk about the abuse, or about the relationship, all of the time. In fact, if the person is hiding the abuse, or does not recognise the behaviours as harmful or abusive, they may struggle to connect with you, if that is all you ask and talk about. 

Survivors have told us about the value of regular interactions with the people they know. For example, going out for a coffee and chatting about usual things, or doing an activity (walking, swimming, knitting, rock climbing…) together. These everyday contacts can help someone to see a life beyond the abuse they are experiencing, to develop trust in the people who might help them, and to increase their confidence and self-esteem. 

Even if you do not live near to the person you are supporting, or if their freedom to leave the house is limited by the abuser, you may still be able to stay in touch and to connect. Sometimes an abuser may monitor someone’s devices or accounts but you could ask what they need and which platforms are best/safest. 

It is important to remember that staying in touch in these ways may not be possible, or even safe, for a survivor. If the person seems unwilling to be in touch, they may still want to see you or to speak to you, but it may be difficult or dangerous for them to do so. Friends, family members, neighbours, and colleagues tell us about the ‘creative‘ ways they have found to stay in touch, and to be aware of what is happening. For example, sometimes people look at a survivor’s social media account (e.g., Facebook, Twitter, Instagram) to check whether she is posting anything, and to see if the posts give any information about how she is doing. 

Some people stay in touch through another person (for example, if the abuser will not let the survivor see you, but will let them see someone else that you know and trust). And sometimes, people use events and opportunities, like birthdays, to be in touch in a very general way. This type of contact lets the survivor know that you care, and that you are still there for them, without letting the abuser know that you are worried about what is happening in the relationship. 

It is about balance in your communication, because not talking about what is happening, and about your concerns, can also be unhelpful. So, a mix of asking gentle questions about how the person is doing, and whether there is anything you can do to support them, and also generally staying in touch, so the person knows you are there for them. 

Sometimes survivors leave or end a relationship with an abuser because things get worse, are harder to deal with, or because of a particular event or ‘trigger’. People are also more likely to leave if they are sure they will get support from other people, especially the people around them. Offering help and support, kindness and care, in a reliable way, will help the person to trust you, and to accept your offer of support when they are ready. 

One of the questions that we are asked is how to help a survivor recover from the impacts of their experiences. Experiencing domestic abuse can affect all parts of someone’s life, including impacts on their physical health, emotional and mental health, relationships, and finances. Domestic abuse can also cause post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) – high levels of anxiety caused by very traumatic events. Children and teenagers can also experience a range of impacts. 

The effects of domestic abuse, on survivors, can last for a few months, a few years, or may continue throughout their lives. This includes both adults and children; children are legally acknowledged as survivors in their own right. Children can experience abuse and be affected by it in a number of ways. You can learn more about this in The Survivor’s Handbook. But many survivors do recover, thrive, and flourish, even when some of the impacts continue for quite a long time. The help and support that you give, over time, can be a really important part of this recovery. 

Two helpful things you can do to support someone as they recover after domestic abuse, are: (1) continue to be there for the person, offering kindness and care, and (2) signpost them to organisations that can support them. Sometimes it can be helpful for the support to come from someone independent, who is not connected with the situation, or from an organisation that specialises in offering this kind of expert emotional support. You can learn more about accessing support after leaving in The Survivor’s Handbook. They may find it helpful to have a look at Bloom. They have free online courses that cover topics such as recovering from abuse and healing from sexual trauma. These can be completed in the survivor’s own time and pace. 

They can also join Survivors’ Forum to connect with other survivors to share experiences and support one another. 

What you can do is continue to listen well and respond well, and also look after yourself. Listening over a long period of time can be hard, and you may need some support yourself to deal with all that you have heard. 

Some people worry that continuing to talk about the domestic abuse, once the person is safe, may be unhelpful, because they think it will remind the survivor about their past experiences. Everyone is different, and each person copes in different ways at different times. Our advice is to be honest with the survivor, and to let her know that you are not sure what would be most helpful. Let her know that the control is hers – agree that if you start talking together about the abuse or the relationship, and she does not want to continue, that she can ask you to stop, without giving a reason, and that you will stop. 

Domestic abuse also effects people’s self-esteem, and their sense of self-worth, so anything you can say or do to help rebuild these will be helpful. For example, telling the person what you like about them, or giving them a compliment about something they have done. Sometimes doing a new activity, especially if you do it together, can also help to increase the person’s confidence in their own abilities. 

Friends, family members, neighbours, and colleagues often tell us that they feel a great responsibility to ‘get it rightas they try to help, particularly if the abuse, or the impacts of the abuse, continue over a long time. Even with the best intentions, you may not always say or do the right thing. However, if you ‘stick around, offer kindness and care, ask and listen to the survivor about what she wants and needs, and look after yourself, you will be a really useful support. 

If you look after yourself, you will be in a better position to help someone who is experiencing domestic abuse. 

The greatest gifts you can give a survivor (both short-term and long-term) are kindness, patience, and regular reminders that you are there for them.

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Domestic Abuse Outreach Worker https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=47470 Thu, 13 Mar 2025 15:46:31 +0000 https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=47470 Hours:                      Part time (30 hours a week) with flexible working Salary:                      £25,078 – £27,354 pa FTE, pro-rated to £20,062.40 – £21,883.20 Contract:                  Fixed term of 1 year, with potential to be extended Closing date:            Monday 7th April 2025 Applications will be reviewed on a rolling basis, so you are advised to apply early: we reserve […]

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Hours:                      Part time (30 hours a week) with flexible working
Salary:                      £25,078 – £27,354 pa FTE, pro-rated to £20,062.40 – £21,883.20
Contract:                  Fixed term of 1 year, with potential to be extended
Closing date:            Monday 7th April 2025

Applications will be reviewed on a rolling basis, so you are advised to apply early: we reserve the right to close the role early if we find a suitable candidate.

Please note: this post is restricted to women under schedule 9, Part 1, Equalities Act 2010.

 

OVERVIEW

Rising Sun Domestic Violence and Abuse Service (Rising Sun) is an independent charity in Kent working to prevent domestic abuse and improve the lives of survivors and their children suffering from its effects. We have an ambitious vision for a world in which women and children live free from actual or threatened domestic abuse and all forms of violence.

Our team provide a range of services to adults and children who’ve experienced domestic abuse. We understand the impact of domestic abuse on survivors, so we listen to individual needs and respond in a trauma informed way. We provide one-to-one support and deliver therapeutically informed group programmes to help survivors to recognise healthy/unhealthy behaviours in relationships and to understand the impact of domestic abuse. Bringing survivors together validates experiences and enables them to draw strength from one another.

We are looking for a creative and proactive individual who has experience of supporting survivors of domestic abuse. Working with survivors of domestic abuse as an outreach worker, you will play a crucial role in advocacy, risk assessment, safety planning and empowerment.

As part of our passionate and committed team of approximately 50 staff, our aspiration is that you will thrive and develop in this varied role. You will be contributing to the invaluable work of the Rising Sun and making a lasting difference to the lives of those who are impacted by domestic abuse.

 

JOB PURPOSE

  • To provide practical and emotional support to survivors of domestic abuse, including crisis intervention, risk assessment and safety planning.
  • To develop individual support plans, which address the risk of harm and offer information, advocacy, advice and signposting to survivors, underpinned by individual risk and need.
  • To empower survivors, thereby increasing self- esteem, reducing isolation and helping survivors to keep safe.
  • To provide survivors with information relating to their rights and ensuring survivors are empowered to make decisions based on their options.
  • To work in collaboration with the adult team and wider Rising Sun team to support other programmes delivered within the organisation.

 

MAIN DUTIES AND RESPONSIBILITIES

Service delivery

  • Work as part of a team providing high quality support, advice, advocacy and information to survivors of domestic abuse.
  • Manage a caseload in accordance with organisational policies and procedures and adhere to confidentiality.
  • Work in a needs led way with a specific focus on a trauma informed approach, which recognises domestic abuse and its impact.
  • Work holistically with survivors, recognising individual needs, and help survivors to recognise and build on their strengths and abilities to build self-esteem and resilience.
  • Offer support face to face or remotely, via phone or video call, depending on the needs of the survivor and current guidance around social distancing.
  • Attend regular supervision and appraisals with line-manager.
  • Work effectively in partnership with other agencies and refer on appropriately, dependant on need and risk. This may include referral to specialist agencies, to other specialist DVA services or other external processes (for example MARAC).
  • Assess risk to individuals on a regular basis using the DASH risk indicator checklist.
  • Work with survivors to develop tailored support plans with a focus on reducing the risk of harm, increasing their personal safety (and that of any children) and responding to their individual needs.
  • Support survivors to be able to identify and manage the risks to themselves and their children
  • Provide information to survivors in relation to their options, including guidance in relation to their housing, legal and welfare rights and advocate on their behalf as required.
  • Encourage service users’ participation in service development, continuous improvement and feedback exercised.
  • Represent the Rising Sun at relevant community meetings and forums.
  • Support Rising Sun’s community services including our One Stop Shop drop in service and group programmes.
  • Maintain up to date and accurate records and ensure, reports and evaluations are completed as required.
  • Work as part of a team, supporting colleagues and building positive working-relationships with team members.
  • Contribute to wider team meetings and discussions to share learning and feed into organisational developments.
  • Be willing and available to work some evenings and weekends as required to support wider team activities such as representing Rising Sun at events (time off in lieu can be taken by arrangement with your line manager).

 

General

  • At all times work professionally and to a high standard, setting an example to the wider team and external partners.
  • A good knowledge and understanding of using IT programmes such as Word and Excel.
  • Complete administrative tasks and ensure paperwork and evaluations are kept up to date.
  • Demonstrate a commitment to continued professional development, being responsible for personal learning and keeping up to date on research, relevant legislation, policy and practice, and other literature relevant to the role.
  • At all times protect the safety and security of the Rising Sun, service users, staff, volunteers and buildings, and the confidentiality of records and other information.
  • Uphold the rights of women, children and young people who have experienced domestic abuse, and proactively assess the gender specific, trauma informed needs and the safety of children and women to ensure that any risks/needs identified are addressed, having full regard to Rising Sun Safeguarding Children policy and Safeguarding Adults policy.
  • Be proactive and solution focussed while paying attention to detail.
  • Participate in supervision, training and meetings as required.
  • Ensure the effective implementation of Rising Sun’s policies and procedures and uphold the core values of the Rising Sun.
  • Work across teams and undertake such other duties, appropriate to the grade and nature of the work, as may reasonably be expected.

This job description sets out the duties of the post at the time when it was drawn up and will be reviewed from time to time. Duties may vary from time to time without changing the general character of the duties or the level of responsibility entailed. Such variations are a common occurrence and cannot of themselves justify a reconsideration of the grading of the post.

PERSON SPECIFICATION 

Knowledge and Qualifications

  • An accredited VAWG/domestic abuse qualification, e.g. IDVA / DAPA (Desirable).
  • Good understanding of the impact of domestic violence and trauma on survivors, children and young people, families and communities.
  • Knowledge of issues affecting survivors, and an understanding of the barriers they may face in accessing support.
  • Thorough knowledge of safeguarding practice, procedures and legislation.
  • Good understanding of the operation of the agencies working together to support survivors such as social services, police etc.

Experience

  • Experience of working with survivors affected by domestic and sexual abuse.
  • Experience of managing own case load, working under pressure and prioritising workload.
  • Experience of risk assessment and management, and safety planning.
  • Experience of multi-agency partnership work.
  • Experience of facilitating group programmes. (Desirable)
  • Experience of working for a charity or not for profit organisation. (Desirable)

 

Skills

  • Excellent listening, written and verbal communication skills.
  • Non-judgemental and non-directive approach to empowering survivors along with the ability to understand the individual needs of clients.
  • Effective crisis management, negotiation, advocacy and interpersonal skills.
  • Ability to work well within a team and responsibly on own initiative.
  • Good task management skills and the ability to work effectively under pressure and to deadlines.
  • Good data collection, monitoring and IT skills, including word processing and using databases and Excel spreadsheets.

General

  • Able to work co-operatively with colleagues, statutory and non-statutory agencies.
  • Able to set clear boundaries and a willingness to accept line management and make effective use of clinical supervision.
  • A good understanding of the importance of confidentiality, safe practice and health and safety procedures.
  • A good understanding of cultural issues, and commitment to anti-discriminatory practice and equal opportunities.
  • A firm commitment to women, children’s and young people’s rights and to work within Rising Sun framework and its core values.
  • Able to travel independently across East Kent to meet survivors and attend meetings.
    Willingness to carry out the policies and procedures of the Rising Sun and to work to agreed guidelines and codes of conduct.

 

APPLICATION INFORMATION

To apply for the role please download the job pack from our website https://www.risingsunkent.com/about-us/join-the-team and return to us at recruitment@risingsunkent.com by 7th April 2025.

We will be screening applications and inviting suitable candidates to interview on a rolling basis so we advise applying early to avoid disappointment.

 

Contact Details

For further information visit our website, and if you have any questions about your application or wish to discuss the role further please contact Nicky Burns: Nicky@risingsunkent.com, or Emma Threadingham: Emma19@risingsunkent.com – or if you prefer to arrange a call please contact the office on 01227 452852.

We request no contact from agencies or media sales.

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Children and Young People’s (CYP) Worker – Refuge https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=46706 Tue, 26 Nov 2024 09:31:54 +0000 https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=46706 Part-time position of 30 hours per week Fixed-term contract to 30th November 2025 Annual salary of £20,843.33 (pro-rata of £25,706.78), rising by 4% upon successful completion of probationary period Stockport Without Abuse (SWA) is a grassroots charity committed to supporting our vision of everyone having a right to live in safety, and to have a […]

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  • Part-time position of 30 hours per week
  • Fixed-term contract to 30th November 2025
  • Annual salary of £20,843.33 (pro-rata of £25,706.78), rising by 4% upon successful completion of probationary period
  • Stockport Without Abuse (SWA) is a grassroots charity committed to supporting our vision of everyone having a right to live in safety, and to have a future without fear of domestic abuse. We work directly with women, men and children who have experienced or are at risk of domestic abuse.

    Main purpose of the post: 

    As the Children and Young People’s (CYP) Refuge Worker, you will deliver one-to-one support sessions including work/play activities to children and young people residing in the refuge aged 0-16, who have been affected by domestic abuse, and small group sessions to these children and young people to support socialisation skills and integration into a new living environment. You will develop and deliver programmes of age appropriate flexible support to children and young people, which supports their needs and enhances their experiences through play and meaningful engagement.

    You will also support families to transition to a new living environment and promote effective parenting skills and promote and build working links and relationships with other child and family focused agencies in the locality and wider community, particularly health visitors, maternity team and safeguarding services.

    Why work with us?

    Our benefits include a 4% pay increase upon successful completion of your 6-month probationary period, 24 days per annum plus all public bank holidays (pro rata for part-time staff), your birthday off every year, regular clinical supervision with an external provider, and 3% employer contributory pension.

    Applications only – we do not accept CV’s. Please read the guidance in your application pack.

    The job description, person specification and application forms are available to download at stockportwithoutabuse/get-involved. Once complete, please send your application and other requested forms to: recruitment@stockportwithoutabuse.org.uk

    Closing date for applications is 9am Monday 6th January 2025*

    Interviews will be held Wednesday 22nd January 2025

    *Please note that we will review applications as they are received and may close the job vacancy early if a suitable candidate is found, so we encourage you to submit your application at your earliest opportunity before the closing deadline.

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    Domestic Abuse Accommodation Support Worker https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=46494 Fri, 01 Nov 2024 15:42:34 +0000 https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=46494 Domestic Abuse Accommodation Support Worker Hours:  22.5 hours a week (hours and days TBC) Salary:  £23,400 – £25,192 pa FTE, pro-rated to £14,040 – £15,115 for part time hours Contract:  1 year fixed term, with the potential for extension Closing date:  Monday 2nd December 2024 Benefits We value our team’s wellbeing, and in order to […]

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    Domestic Abuse Accommodation Support Worker

    Hours:  22.5 hours a week (hours and days TBC)
    Salary:  £23,400 – £25,192 pa FTE, pro-rated to £14,040 – £15,115 for part time hours
    Contract:  1 year fixed term, with the potential for extension
    Closing date:  Monday 2nd December 2024

    Benefits

    We value our team’s wellbeing, and in order to support it, we offer a number of benefits, including:

    • 25 days annual leave per year plus bank holidays (pro-rated for part time hours)
    • A bonus day of leave for your birthday
    • 3% matched pension contribution
    • Access to Rising Sun’s counselling service
    • Clinical supervision
    • Employee Assistance Programme
    • Health care cash plan for you and your children for a number of health treatments (e.g. dental, optical, physiotherapy etc.) as well as discounts in shops and attractions
    • Up to four weeks sick pay in any 12 month period (eligible after probation period)

    Overview:
    Rising Sun Domestic Violence and Abuse Service (Rising Sun) is an independent charity in Kent working to prevent domestic abuse and improve the lives of survivors and their children suffering from its effects. We have an ambitious vision for a world in which women and children live free from actual or threatened domestic abuse and all forms of violence.

    Our team provide a range of services to adults and children who’ve experienced domestic abuse. We understand the impact of domestic abuse on survivors and so we listen to individual needs and respond in a trauma informed way. We provide one-to-one support and also deliver therapeutically informed group programmes to help survivors to recognise healthy/unhealthy behaviours in relationships and to understand the impact of domestic abuse. Bringing survivors together validates experiences and enables them to draw strength from one another.

    As part of our passionate and committed team of approximately 50 staff, our aspiration is that you will thrive and develop in this varied role. You will be contributing to the invaluable work of the Rising Sun and making a lasting difference to the lives of those who are impacted by domestic abuse.

    Job purpose:

    Liberty House provides housing and support for up to 5 homeless young women aged 16-24 who are single, pregnant or have a young child and have experienced domestic abuse.

    The support worker will be required to take on key-working responsibilities for the residents at Liberty House, as well as delivering other support work within the house and within the wider Liberty team. This could be related to pregnancy and parenting, life skills, psychoeducational support, understanding healthy relationships and building supportive peer relationships within the home, and supporting them to live independently.

    The post holder will work to provide a secure, stable and homely environment and to act as a positive role model to residents. They will build professional and supportive relationships with residents and colleagues.

    The project works to empower residents, providing them with information relating to their rights and enabling them to make decisions based on their options using a trauma informed approach.

    As a member of the Liberty Team (16 – 24 year olds), the successful applicant will work collaboratively with the rest of the Children and Young People’s team, as well as the wider Rising Sun team to support other programmes delivered within the organisation.

    Main duties and responsibilities: 

    Service Delivery

    • Provide holistic, trauma informed, practical and emotional support to residents of Liberty House through regular 1-2-1 sessions. Develop individual support plans, which address any practical and emotional needs the resident may have, such as accessing benefits, life skills and perform risk assessments where needed.
    • Organise and deliver group sessions that focus on life skills and strengthening relationships.
    • Encourage the residents in positive parenting.
    • Manage relationships within the house, act as a conciliator, arbitrator and reconciler in disputes between residents.
    • Ensure residents adhere to house rules.
    • Assist with the day to day general running of the house and office, to ensure they are fit for purpose and safe for team members and residents.
    • Conduct safety checks around the house. Ensure all faults/repairs are reported and that the Health and Safety Policy is adhered to at all times.
    • Comply with organisational policies and procedures and adhere to confidentiality.
    • Work effectively in partnership with other agencies.
    • Work within our ethos of Equality, Diversity and Inclusion at all times and instil these values in all areas of work, with service users, staff and external stakeholders.
    • Encourage residents’ participation in service development, continuous improvement and feedback exercises
    • Maintain up to date and accurate records and ensure reports and evaluations are completed as required.
    • Be willing and available to work some evenings and weekends as required, as part of a rota for Liberty House team members, and also occasionally to support wider team activities such as representing Rising Sun at events (time off in lieu can be taken by arrangement with your line manager).
    • Represent Rising Sun at multi-agency meetings as required.

    General

    • Demonstrate a commitment to continued professional development, being responsible for personal learning and keeping up to date on research, relevant legislation, policy and practice, and other literature relevant to the role.
    • Uphold the rights of women, children and young people who have experienced domestic abuse, and proactively assess the gender specific, trauma informed needs and the safety of children and women to ensure that any risks/needs identified are addressed, having full regard to Rising Sun Safeguarding Children policy and Safeguarding Adults policy.
    • Lone working as required.
    • Participate in clinical supervision, training and meetings as required.
    • Work across teams and undertake such other duties, appropriate to the grade and nature of the work, as may reasonably be expected.

    This job description sets out the duties of the post at the time when it was drawn up and will be reviewed from time to time. Duties may vary from time to time without changing the general character of the duties or the level of responsibility entailed. Such variations are a common occurrence and cannot of themselves justify a reconsideration of the grading of the post.

    Person specification

    Knowledge and qualifications

    • Good understanding of antenatal and postnatal care.
    • Good understanding of effective parenting, particularly for parents of young babies.
    • Good understanding of the impact of domestic violence and trauma on survivors, children and young people, families and communities.
    • Knowledge of issues affecting survivors, and an understanding of the barriers they may face in accessing support.
    • Thorough knowledge of safeguarding practice, procedures and legislation.
    • Good understanding of the operation of the agencies working together to support survivors and their children such as social services, housing, police etc.

    Experience

    • Experience of working with young children and/or babies and their mothers
    • Experience of supporting women with life skills/developing confidence
    • Experience of multi-agency partnership work
    • Experience of working alongside volunteers (Desirable)
    • Experience of working with survivors affected by domestic and/ or sexual abuse (Desirable)
    • Experience of facilitating group programmes (Desirable)
    • Experience of working for a charity or not for profit organisation. (Desirable)

    Skills

    • Excellent listening, written and verbal communication skills.
    • Ability to form positive relationships with residents from a wide range of backgrounds and life experiences in order to build professional and supportive relationships
    • Ability to work closely with young parents and their babies
    • Ability to help residents in the creative use of leisure time with a view to building relationships and social skills
    • Non-judgemental and non-directive approach to empowering survivors along with the ability to understand the individual needs of clients.
    • Ability to manage conflict and to promote resolution.
    • Ability to work well with colleagues, statutory and non-statutory agencies and responsibly on own initiative.
    • Good task management skills and the ability to work effectively under pressure and to deadlines.
    • Good data collection, monitoring and IT skills, including word processing and using databases and Excel spreadsheets.

    General

    • Able to set clear boundaries and a willingness to accept line management and make effective use of clinical supervision.
    • A good understanding and commitment to confidentiality, safe practice and health and safety procedures.
    • A good understanding of cultural issues, and commitment to anti-discriminatory practice and equal opportunities.
    • Able to travel independently across East Kent where necessary to attend meetings.
    • Willingness to carry out the policies and procedures of the Rising Sun and to work within its framework and core values.

    How to apply

    You can download the Job Information Pack on our website for the full job description, person specification and application form.

    Please return your completed application form to claire@risingsunkent.com by the end of Monday 2nd December 2024.

    Applications will be reviewed on a rolling basis so you are advised to apply early: we reserve the right to close the role before this date.

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    Children and Young People’s Mentor https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=46042 Wed, 04 Sep 2024 13:16:19 +0000 https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=46042 Children and Young People’s Mentor Contract:  Fixed term for 12 months, with the possibility of extension Hours:  4 days Part Time (30 hours a week) Salary:  £24,258 – £29,310 pa pro rata, depending on experience Probation Period:  6 months Closing date: Please complete the application form at the end of this document and return to […]

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    Children and Young People’s Mentor

    Contract:  Fixed term for 12 months, with the possibility of extension

    Hours:  4 days Part Time (30 hours a week)

    Salary:  £24,258 – £29,310 pa pro rata, depending on experience

    Probation Period:  6 months

    Closing date: Please complete the application form at the end of this document and return to claire@risingsunkent.com by Monday 14th October 2024

    Interviews to be held:  21st October (please tell us when you apply if you can’t make this date)

    Start date:  16th December (flexible)

    Other info:  This post is restricted to women under schedule 9, Part 1, Equalities Act 2010.

    Benefits

    We offer a number of benefits to team members including:

    ·         25 days annual leave per year plus bank holidays (pro rata)

    ·         A bonus day of leave for your birthday

    ·         3% matched pension contribution

    ·         Access to Rising Sun’s counselling service

    ·         Employee Assistance Programme

    ·         Health care cash plan for you and your children for a number of health treatments (e.g. dental, optical, physiotherapy etc.) as well as discounts in shops and attractions

    ·         Up to four weeks sick pay in any 12 month period (eligible after probation period)

    Rising Sun Domestic Violence and Abuse Service (Rising Sun) is an independent charity in Kent working to prevent domestic abuse and improve the lives of survivors and their children suffering from its effects. We have an ambitious vision for a world in which women and children live free from actual or threatened domestic abuse and all forms of violence.

    Our team provide a range of services to adults and children who’ve experienced domestic abuse. We understand the impact of domestic abuse on survivors and so we listen to individual needs and respond in a trauma informed way. We provide one-to-one support and also deliver therapeutically informed group programmes to help survivors to recognise healthy/unhealthy behaviours in relationships and to understand the impact of domestic abuse. Bringing survivors together validates experiences and enables them to draw strength from one another.

    We are looking for a creative and proactive individual who is experienced in working with children and young girls and building trust in the relationships. As a Children and Young People’s Mentor, you will play a crucial role in supporting young people who are dealing with the trauma of witnessing or experiencing domestic abuse.

    As part of our passionate and committed team of approximately 50 staff, our aspiration is that you will thrive and develop in this varied role. You will be contributing to the invaluable work of the Rising Sun and making a lasting difference to the lives of those who are impacted by domestic abuse.

    JOB PURPOSE
    The Children and Young People’s Mentor will work within the CYP team to deliver services relating to children and young people affected by Domestic violence and Abuse.
    They will hold a caseload for direct 1-1 work with young people/ girls and deliver a programme of groups in schools to adolescent girls. Responsibilities will include recording of data, reporting and completing evaluations.
    They will be expected to promote the work of the Rising Sun and take a share of responsibility in delivering or assisting with promotional work within the organisation.

    MAIN DUTIES AND RESPONSIBILITIES
    Service delivery

    ·           Work 1-1 with young people (aged 11 to 15 years) affected by Domestic violence and Abuse

    ·           Build positive working relationships with local schools to deliver this programme

    ·           Hold own caseload and respond in a way that understands the needs of the young people the Rising Sun supports

    ·           Work in a mentoring capacity with children and adolescents with a specific focus on domestic abuse and its impact

    ·           Recognise the impact of domestic abuse on young people and families; showing empathy and understanding in working with these families and developing the capacity to adopt a trauma informed approach to the work

    ·           Support and facilitate groups in schools and in the community focusing on healthy relationships, spotting red flags etc

    ·           Work flexibly with young people and meet with them in a variety of settings such as schools, colleges and community centres, depending on their needs

    ·           Work creatively and flexibly to help support a vulnerable and at times challenging client group.

    ·           Build relationships with partner agencies such as social care, early help, schools, police and health services

    ·           Attend meetings on behalf of the Rising Sun where necessary, promote multi-agency working and build positive working relationships with external agencies at all times

    ·           Work as part of a team, supporting colleagues and building positive working-relationships with team members

    ·           Availability to work some evenings and weekends as required

    ·           The ability to manage time well and prioritise tasks depending on day-to-day events

    General

    ·           At all times work professionally and to a high standard, setting an example to the wider team and external partners

    ·           A good knowledge and understanding of using IT programmes such as Word and Excel

    ·           Complete administrative tasks as required and ensure that paperwork and evaluations are kept up to date

    ·           Demonstrate a commitment to continued professional development, being responsible for personal learning and keeping up to date on research, relevant legislation, policy and practice, and other literature relevant to the role

    ·           At all times protect the safety and security of the Rising Sun, service users, staff, volunteers and buildings, and the confidentiality of records and other information

    ·           Uphold the rights of women, children and young people who have experienced domestic abuse, and proactively assess the gender specific, trauma informed needs and the safety of children and women to ensure that any risks/needs identified are addressed, having full regard to Rising Sun Safeguarding Children policy and Safeguarding Adults policy

    ·           Be proactive and solution focussed while paying attention to detail

    ·           Participate in supervision, training and meetings as required

    ·           Ensure the effective implementation of Rising Sun’s policies and procedures and uphold the core values of the Rising Sun

    ·           Work across teams and undertake such other duties, appropriate to the grade and nature of the work, as may reasonably be expected

    This job description sets out the duties of the post at the time when it was drawn up and will be reviewed from time to time. Duties may vary from time to time without changing the general character of the duties or the level of responsibility entailed. Such variations are a common occurrence and cannot of themselves justify a reconsideration of the grading of the post.

    PERSON SPECIFICATION 
    Knowledge and Qualifications

    ·         A relevant qualification in working with children and young people (Desirable)

    ·         A thorough understanding of violence against women and girls with a particular focus on domestic abuse (coercive control, sexual violence, so-called ‘honour- based violence’, forced marriage and FGM)

    ·         Experience of working with young girls and adolescent females with focus around understanding emotions, shame and gender identity (Desirable)

    ·         Excellent understanding of the impact of domestic violence on children and young people, families and communities

    ·         Thorough knowledge of safeguarding practice, procedures and legislation

    ·         Good understanding of the operation of the agencies working together to support survivors such as social services, police, MARAC etc (Desirable)

    Experience

    ·         Relevant experience of working 1 to 1 with young people

    ·         Experience of facilitating groups with young people (Desirable)

    ·         Experience of advocating for the rights of survivors to access safety and freedom alongside partner agencies to facilitate this

    ·         Experience of assessing needs, safety and support planning, considering accessibility needs

    ·         Proven track record of building and maintaining networks and working with partner agencies and other stakeholders to develop and deliver services (Desirable)

    Skills

    ·         Excellent listening and communication skills with a wide range of people of all ages and backgrounds

    ·         The ability to work well within a team and responsibly on own initiative and of maintaining confidentiality

    ·         A flexible, proactive approach and a good ability to prioritise work

    ·         Good project and time management skills and the ability to work effectively under pressure and to deadlines

    ·         Good data collection, monitoring and IT skills, including word processing and using databases and spreadsheets

    General

    ·         Work co-operatively with colleagues, statutory and non-statutory agencies

    ·         Clear boundaries and a willingness to accept line management and make effective use of supervision

    ·         A good understanding of the importance of confidentiality, safe practice and health and safety procedures

    ·         A good understanding of cultural issues, anti-discriminatory practice and equal Opportunities

    ·         A firm commitment to women, children’s and young people’s rights and to work within Rising Sun framework and its core values

    ·         Willingness to carry out the policies and procedures of the Rising Sun and to work to agreed guidelines and codes of conduct

    For further information visit our website at www.risingsunkent.com and if you have any questions about your application or wish to discuss the role further please contact Amy (CYP Service Manager) at amye@risingsunkent.com or 01227 452852.

    How to apply

    Please download the Job Information Pack on our website for the full job description, person specification and application form.

    Please return the application form to claire@risingsunkent.com by Monday 14th October 2024.

    We may screen applications and invite suitable candidates to interview on a rolling basis, and reserve the right to close recruitment before the above date, so we advise applying early to avoid disappointment.

    We request no contact from agencies or media sales please.

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    Women’s Aid publishes groundbreaking research looking at what influences children and young people’s understanding of domestic abuse https://womensaid.org.uk/womens-aid-publishes-groundbreaking-research-looking-at-what-influences-children-and-young-peoples-understanding-of-domestic-abuse/ Wed, 11 Oct 2023 14:26:04 +0000 https://womensaid.org.uk/?p=36664 Women’s Aid publishes groundbreaking research looking at what influences children and young people’s understanding of domestic abuse  National domestic abuse charity Women’s Aid has today published a first-of-its-kind report into what influences children and young people’s attitudes towards domestic abuse, proving a direct link between the viewing of harmful misogynist content online and the normalisation […]

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    Women’s Aid publishes groundbreaking research looking at what influences children and young people’s understanding of domestic abuse 

    National domestic abuse charity Women’s Aid has today published a first-of-its-kind report into what influences children and young people’s attitudes towards domestic abuse, proving a direct link between the viewing of harmful misogynist content online and the normalisation of unhealthy behaviours in relationships.  

    The research explores children and young people’s understanding of gender roles, relationships and sex, with the goal of informing Relationships, Sex and Health Education (RSHE) in schools. The report shows some worrying findings, notably the research shows a link between misogynistic online content and unhealthy views on relationships, which Women’s Aid know underpin domestic abuse. For example, those who have viewed such content, including from influencers like Andrew Tate, are five times more likely to view hurting someone physically as acceptable if you say sorry afterwards. The report also finds that worrying behaviours indicative of controlling behaviour, including ‘love bombing’, stalking and the giving of unwanted gifts, are normalised by those who have been exposed to harmful content online.  

    The research also explores children and young people’s views on the current RSHE curriculum and identifies some significant gaps that need to be urgently improved, by working in collaboration with specialist organisations, like Women’s Aid. For example, while the biological aspect of sex education has been covered extensively, with 75% of those surveyed saying that they learnt about it in secondary school, education around domestic abuse, healthy relationships and controlling behaviours was found to be lacking, with a third of those surveyed saying that they recalled no education about these topics covered at school. Additionally, the report found that girls had a significantly better understanding of healthy relationships, controlling behaviour and asking permission than boys, suggesting that the curriculum needs to go further to engage boys.  

    The findings in relation to the existing RSHE curriculum are especially worrying, when viewed in conjunction with a concerning gap in awareness when it comes to getting support for domestic abuse experienced at home or in relationships. While 70% of children and young people said they would seek support if they needed it, a staggering 61% of them were unsure about what support would be available to them, or where to seek it.  

    Farah Nazeer, chief executive at Women’s Aid, comments:  

    “The findings in this first-of-its-kind report are incredibly important – understanding and engaging with the next generation is key to creating a society where domestic abuse is not tolerated and women and girls are safe. While the report has revealed some worrying influences on the attitudes of children and young people, including the significant impact that misogynistic content online can have on the understanding of what is and isn’t healthy in relationships, it has also provided us with tangible next steps.  

    “Changes must be made to the curriculum to encourage and support young people to think critically. The curriculum must be rooted in the understanding that domestic abuse and violence against women and girls are part of the unequal gendered power dynamics in wider society and seek to address them. We must also take a ‘whole school’ approach to educating children and young people, going beyond the classroom and engaging at all levels to affect true change.   

    “It is also crucial that online platforms are held responsible for the dangerous views they perpetuate – they have a unique position in preventing and tackling violence against women and girls, and must capitalise on this now to prevent further harm.   

    “It is only by working together that we can work towards a society that has no room for misogyny, where girls and women are safe and relationships are respectful and rooted in consent”.  

     

    Notes to editors:  

    • The full report is available here: https://womensaid.org.uk/influencers-and-attitudes-report/ 
    • Women’s Aid has a number of resources that can be used to help if readers would like to access further support or information about our resources and we would appreciate signposting to the following where appropriate:  
    • Expect Respect is our schools delivery program working with teachers and students aged 4-18. We deliver training covering topics including gender stereotypes, domestic abuse, and healthy relationships as part of a whole-school approach. If you’d like to find out more or book in an introductory session with our Children and Young People training team, contact cyp@womensaid.org.uk    
    • Love Respect is a dedicated Women’s Aid website for young people in their first relationships, which gives information on what a healthy and an unhealthy relationship is, so children and young people can spot the signs. 

     

     

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    Children & Young People’s Therapist https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=34054 Fri, 21 Jul 2023 14:08:31 +0000 https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=34054 Vacancy Type: Fixed Term Contract/ Part Time Application Deadline: 02 August 2023 Interview Date: 10th August 2023   Job Summary Location: Hybrid – (home and Solace’s accommodation services) Salary: £28,187 – £30,750 per annum, pro-rated to £16,912.20 – £18,450 based on working 22.5 hours per week (Please note, successful candidates are usually appointed at bottom of relevant band) […]

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    Vacancy Type: Fixed Term Contract/ Part Time

    Application Deadline: 02 August 2023

    Interview Date: 10th August 2023

     

    Job Summary

    Location: Hybrid – (home and Solace’s accommodation services)

    Salary: £28,187 – £30,750 per annum, pro-rated to £16,912.20 – £18,450 based on working 22.5 hours per week (Please note, successful candidates are usually appointed at bottom of relevant band)

    Hours: Flexible – up to 22.5 per week

    Contract: Fixed term until 31st May 2024

    Closing date: 2nd August 2023 at midday

    Interview date: 10th August 2023

     

    Are you looking for a rewarding role working for an intersectional feminist organisation? If so, we have an incredible opportunity for you to join our team as Children & Young People’s Therapist at Solace Women’s Aid.

    We exist to end the harm done through gender-based violence. Our aim is to work to prevent violence and abuse, as well as providing services to meet the individual needs of survivors, particularly women and children. Our work is holistic and empowering, working alongside survivors to achieve independent lives, free from abuse.

    Our core values reflect our history and were developed in consultation with staff and service users. Feminism and intersectionality are key to our work and we are committed to the principles of being survivor-led, trauma-informed, empowering, diverse, anti-racist and anti-discriminatory.

    About the Service

    Solace’s counselling service provides therapeutic support to women and children residing in Solace’s London-based refuges. We are looking for a Children and Young People’s Therapist to join our team.

    About the Role

    The CYP Refuge Therapists deliver one-to-one therapy to children and young people residing in Solace’s refuges. The candidate will be responsible for delivery of a therapeutic service to children and young people 2-18 and will also offer parent sessions. They will be ensuring high quality, effective and safe service provision in accordance with contract specifications.

    About You

    We are looking for a candidate with post qualification experience of working with children and young people who have experienced or witnessed trauma and abuse. They will be reporting to Counselling Coordinator and Counselling Service Manager. They will attend regular supervision, use administrative systems including outcome measures and contribute to the funder reports.

     

    The applicant should be a qualified counsellor, with specialist knowledge and experience of working with children and young people e.g., a Play Therapist, Art Therapist or Drama Therapist, registered with the relevant accrediting bodies e.g., the British Association of Art Therapists; British Association of Drama Therapists; BACP; UKCP; HCPC or equivalent.

    We understand that you may not have all the knowledge, experience, and skills mentioned in the Job Profile Document. However, your interpersonal skills, passion to have a positive impact, commitment to our purpose, and ability to learn quickly and collaborate effectively will be equally important. If you wish to learn more about the role or if you are unsure about whether to apply, we encourage you to contact our recruitment team at recruitment@solacewomensaid.org.

     

    What we can offer you

    We provide a comprehensive benefits package to all our employees, including:

    • Flexible working
    • Focus on learning and development (internal career progression and training)
    • Generous holiday entitlement
    • Employer pension contribution
    • Family-friendly leave and enhanced maternity pay
    • Inclusion Networks
    • Daily clinical debriefing
    • Employee Assistance Programme
    • Flow & Restore yoga classes
    • Meditation sessions
    • Cycle to Work Scheme

    How to apply

    Please send your CV and Supporting Statement outlining your interest in working for Solace via the recruitment portal and explain how you meet the criteria set out in the Job Profile Document.

    Solace Women’s Aid values diversity, promotes equity, and challenges discrimination. We encourage and welcome applications from candidates of diverse cultures, abilities, perspectives, and lived experiences. We have policies and processes in place to ensure that all employees are offered an equal opportunity in recruitment and selection, promotion, training, pay, and benefits. Our Inclusion Networks support staff with protected characteristics and offer inclusive spaces to connect.

    We are a Disability Confident Employer and committed to an inclusive and accessible recruitment process. We anticipate and provide reasonable adjustments as needed and support employees who acquire a disability or long-term health condition, enabling them to stay in work. If you require any support to apply for this role, please email us at recruitment@solacewomensaid.org

    This service is run by women for women and is therefore restricted to female applicants under the Equality Act 2010, Schedule 9, and Part 1. Section 7(2) e of the Sex Discrimination Act 1975 apply. The post is exempt from the Rehabilitation of Offenders Act.

    As part of safer recruitment practices, we carry out pre-employment checks including references, Disclosure and Barring Service (DBS) and right to work in the UK checks.

    No agencies.

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    Children and Young People Counsellor x2 https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=32603 Wed, 14 Jun 2023 14:20:41 +0000 https://womensaid.org.uk/?post_type=job_listing&p=32603 Solace Women’s Aid Children and Young People Counsellor x2 Location: Hybrid, Pan-London We would expect counsellors to be able to offer a mixture of in person and remote counselling sessions depending on young people’s needs. In person sessions may be held in schools, or our London office. Salary: 2.2   £28,187- £30,750 per annum, pro-rated to £11,274.80 – […]

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    Solace Women’s Aid

    Children and Young People Counsellor x2

    Location: Hybrid, Pan-London

    We would expect counsellors to be able to offer a mixture of in person and remote counselling sessions depending on young people’s needs. In person sessions may be held in schools, or our London office.

    Salary: 2.2   £28,187- £30,750 per annum, pro-rated to £11,274.80 – £12,300 based on working 15 hours per week

    (please note, successful candidates are usually appointed at bottom of relevant band)

    Hours: 15 hours (2 days) – Please note that this role will include late and weekend shifts

    We are looking to recruit 2 Counsellors who will each have 15 hours. There is mostly flexibility on work pattern, but candidates should be available to work on Wednesdays.

    Contract: Fixed Term Contract, 11 months from start date

    Closing date: 26th June 2023 at midday

    Interview date:  Week commencing: 10th July 2023

    Solace is an innovative, exciting charity working across London. Our purpose is to bring to an end the harm done through domestic and sexual violence to all survivors, particularly women and children. Our work is holistic and empowering, working alongside survivors to achieve independent lives free from abuse.

    About the Service

    The Early Intervention and Prevention Service supports children and young people who have experienced any form of VAWG. The team is currently comprised of 3 projects: 1) the Formal and Informal Education (one Educator and one Youth Advocate) delivering group and 1:1 prevention work in schools and communities, 2) The CoRageUs Project (one counsellor, one MDA, and one Community Engagement Worker), a specialised service for young people from black and minoritised backgrounds, and 3) the GoGa project, providing safe spaces for YWG to access physical activities. We are looking to add two counsellors to the team to provide therapeutic support to CYP in need.

    About the Role

    To provide therapeutic, trauma-informed counselling to children and young people (CYP) ages 8-21 (or to 24, if disability), who witnessed or experienced trauma due to the impact of gender-based violence. You will provide a safe and secure space and develop trusting relationships with children and young people to support them to process difficult early experiences and decrease the negative impact these have on their lives. You will work creatively, as part of a multidisciplinary team, using different therapeutic tools and would develop relationships with parents and carers when necessary.

    About You

    We are looking for a passionate person who is committed to Solace’s values to foster innovation and continuous improvement in working practice, who is flexible and open to new challenges, ideas and experiences as well as committed to diversity and anti-discriminatory practice. You have experience and commitment to deliver trauma-informed, client-centred, strengths-based therapeutic support to CYP who have experienced VAWG. You are qualified to Diploma level with experience post qualification providing one to one counselling (250 hours minimum) and are BACP or UKCP accredited.

    How to apply

    Please apply via the Solace Women’s Aid website.

    Please send your CV and Supporting Statement outlining your interest in working for Solace via the recruitment portal and explain how you meet the criteria set out in the Job Description

    Solace Women’s Aid values diversity, promotes equality and challenges discrimination. We encourage and welcome applications from people of all backgrounds. We particularly welcome applicants from black minority and ethnic communities.

    Solace is a Disability Confident employer. Please email us at recruitment@solacewomensaid.org if you require any additional support to apply for this role.

    This service is run by women for women and is therefore restricted to female applicants under the Equality Act 2010, Schedule 9, and Part 1. Section 7(2) e of the Sex Discrimination Act 1975 apply. The post is exempt from the Rehabilitation of Offenders Act.

    As part of safer recruitment, we require all successful candidates to complete a satisfactory DBS (Disclosure Barring Service) disclosure.

    No agencies.

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